I could not have said this better so I’m forwarding this blog from Neil F. Nelmark. Neil is a Medical Doctor who promotes body / mind wellness. Check out his newsletter I recommend it to you.
http://www.thebodysoulconnection.com
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Harvard psychologist Daniel Gilbert has spent more than a decade detailing – through scientific research – just how poor we are at predicting which future events will make us happy.
The practical wisdom we can extract from such research: be happy now.
Whatever it is you think will one day make you happy is likely to bring you much less happiness than you think it will.
In other words, if you tend to tie your happiness to future events – like the proverbial “I will be happy when I finally get married, get that promotion, get a new house, . . .” – the promise of happiness will at best disappoint you and at worst completely elude you.
The lesson is that happiness is really only available to us in the present moment. And, our best chance at being happy is to learn how to find and focus on the many good things we do have to be grateful for, even as we are aware of the many things we don’t yet have that we wish we did.
We truly live in parallel worlds and it is a fact of life that pain and joy always coexist. Yet, it is possible -without denying our pain, difficulties and disappointments in life – to learn how to focus better on all the good things we do have to be grateful for.
This ability is – in fact – the most direct path to greater happiness and joy in life. The ability to be grateful for – and focus on – what is good in our lives is a skill that – for most of us – takes practice. A skill, however, that is well worth learning.
