I have come to realize that self-esteem, self worth or self-confidence are not things that can be taught. For some time now I have been reading, researching and searching for ways to assist adults but particularly children with self-esteem. There is way too much teenage depression and I’m passionate about finding a non-drug solution. I believe that self esteem, the antidote to depression, cannot be taught for the simple reason that it occurs naturally. It is in each and every one of us. It is part of us.
Some year’s back I picked up a little inspirational book (you know the kind with one or two sentence quotes), possibly by Wayne Dyer. This one said that “self worth cannot be gained from another because then it would be other worth”, or something like that. It really struck a cord with me, and it’s the answer to self-esteem.
Self esteem or self confidence may not be apparent in some people but not because they don’t have it, but rather it’s covered up. It’s hidden, often lost or even disowned as the result of judgment’s, doubts or rejections experienced in life.
Remember my tweet recently about judgment?
She felt judged! and for the first time the perfection of her existence was brought into question.
This child had arrived here from heaven; an angel blessed the earth; pure, sweet and innocent. Was this not the truth – could there be something wrong with her?
We are all innocent and perfect; we just lost the faith and belief in ourselves. From an early age the child learns that they are not quite good enough yet and so gets busy trying to be what they think they should be in order to compensate for their perceived lack.
As Paul McKenna describes it in his book “Change you Life in 7 Days”; we are all diamonds covered over with horseshit yet busy adding nail varnish to cover it up.
This gives us a new perspective, one that allows us to believe in ourselves again and remove the layers of doubt, fear and criticism and reveal our truth in all its glory. There is a new task; not to teach self esteem but to discover, accept and embrace our innocent selves.
What do you think? Send me your comments below. Does this resonate with you?
I ask you to come from your heart and not your head on this one. If this theory has any value then we are looking at a very different issue, which requires an equally different approach. I find it much kinder, loving and optimistic – what about you?
